Find a positive personal reflection in the Feng Shui Mirror Value by Angela Davis – find your value and create new opportunities and energy for yourself!
It’s that time of year again. We’re back from summer vacation, starting school, wishing for a break in the hot weather (at least here in the States), while still loving that it’s lemonade and swimming weather. And back to school always brings us to shopping. It’s time to get those school supplies, clothes, backpacks and dorm supplies. And along with that expenditure everyone needs to find value any where they can. So let’s Feng Shui that thought and look at a different kind of value; the value we assign ourselves. (And you thought we were going to talk about Prosperity, Health and Abundance . . . and we are. Just not in the way you may be expecting.) So we are going to use Feng Shui principles to value ourselves instead of the more common practice of Feng Shui’ing our home or possessions. Oh, this is a deep one. A meaningful one. You may want to drop a rope (you know, so we can use it to get back from the trip we’re going on).
Value. How many of us value our friendships, relationships and family? I’m sure we do and in spades; it’s the selfless thing, the neighborly thing, the ‘right’ thing to show love and acceptance to those in our lives.
But what happens when we don’t put enough value on our own selves? In Feng Shui, we strive for balance. The flow of yin (female) energy as compared to the flow of yang (male) energy. The balance of the 5 Elements (Wood, Fire, Water, Earth, and Metal) and how they can bring peace and healing where there was once disorder. When just one thing is out of balance, it affects the whole. So why do we perceive ourselves as needing, nay, deserving of less than our loved ones? After all, on a flight they tell us to place the oxygen mask over our own face before helping others. And why? We can’t help others unless we first help ourselves. Ohhh, deepness has been struck. So it could also be said that we can’t truly value others until we know the value of ourselves. Man oh man, this Feng Shui Mind Makeover stuff is REALLY deep. (I think I see Purple!!)
A dear friend once shared the following deep and meaningful thought with me and it really made me stop and think about my place in this world. She said that you are the only you that the universe will ever make. You are unique. No one will ever be quite the same as you. You are a unique combination of your personal experiences, your time here with your family, the path you walk here in life and how you interpret those events. “There will never be another you.” I had heard that phrase often enough but I had never thought of me in that way. It was eye opening, mind altering, life changing. My family and friends will tell you I’ve always thought I was special (ha, ha) but I never resonated that God/The Universe/Everything had made me, well me. A special entity with my own eyes, my own insights, my own perception of this journey I’m on. And that I will never be duplicated. LOL! How amazing is that?!? (Well, it may be a good thing – how many of me could the world handle after all – smiles!!!) It reminded me of the BEST fortune cookie I have ever received (and I’ve received it twice, mind you mister), “You are the only flower of meditation in the Universe”. Sigh. How beautiful is that? Not that it is an entitlement, a statement of specialized adoration saved for me alone, a comment on deserving or what I’m owed, or that I’m special in a way that makes someone else less important. It’s simply a way of recognizing that I am the only me (and you are the only you) that will ever be. Sigh. Have you ever heard the term that you keep getting the lesson put in front of you until you learn it? Well, I think I have FINALLY seen this lesson resolved in my life. That’s a tear jerker moment for me personally.
Now to help you find the path for your life. So how do you re-write your brain’s hard wiring to acknowledge your value after a lifetime of not recognizing that it needs to exist in the first place? Well, there’s a Feng Shui Cure for that and I call it the “Mirrored Value Exercise”:
- Stand in front of a mirror
- Speak out loud all the ways you value yourself
- Look in your own eyes as you speak the words
- Feel the power of your words
- Wipe the tears and blow the nose (it’ll happen believe me)
- Repeat 9 times (yep, that magical Feng Shui number of 9 again) – they can be the same things or different, it’s all up to you
In Feng Shui, mirrors are reflectors – they can send the bad away (think an annoying neighbor) and they can expand the good (making a small space feel bigger). In this exercise, the mirror is reflecting your words, so make them amazing, true and a reflection of how WONDERful you are. This may take practice; you may stand there and stare blankly at yourself. It’s OK. Breath. Start by finding value in your smile, clothes, hair. Think of the value in your heart. Are you giving, kind, lighthearted? Start with the small things if needed. Or ‘mirror’ the value you place in others (get it, mirror, ha ha). If you admire a friend’s prompt wit, look into your own personality and find when you were funny on the spot and speak that out loud.
You will get the hang of singing your praises. You are the place of value; your heart, your mind, your soul. The mirror is reflecting the goodness of who you are back at you. Maybe a few lines of “You are so Beautiful” if you aren’t feeling it that moment. Get creative and show the love. We humans are so quick and abundant in the praise we give to others. We simply know the value they have in our lives. Now it is time to see and feel our own innate value. This Feng Shui exercise, The Mirrored Value, can help you see that internal value, the value of YOU, as clearly as others do.