That Thing Called Love

Wendy Yawching of Healing Spaces and Caribbean and IFSG Board of Directors, shares her lightbulb moment about how love can be found within – and how to use Feng Shui to enhance your experience.

We all seek love. It’s one of my clients most frequent requests (along with money and health). So over the years, I got to thinking: How can I use Feng Shui to really, really help all of these people who come to me expecting that a few adjustments in their bedroom, or in the relationship corner of their homes, will bring about a miraculous change in their romantic fortune?

So I went within and asked the question, and the answer was waiting there. A Lightbulb moment! And now whenever I talk about love and relationships, whether it be to an individual client or within a workshop session, this is my message….

The Feng Shui of Love, Wendy Yawching

Quite simply, Love starts with US. With YOU.


To support the energy of love, whether you are seeking to attract a rich, rewarding love into your life, or to strengthen your existing relationships, don’t focus only on the Relationship corner. Love is not just about pink quartz, or hearts and roses. Deep authentic love is a matter much deeper, and we should give it the honour it deserves.

Take a good look at the Bagua. Check out the 3 Earth guas. Start from the bottom left, moving in a diagonal line to the upper right: Gen, Tai Chi, Kun (as shown in the image below, where blue is Gen; yellow is Tai Chi and Kun is pink).The Feng Shui of Love, Wendy Yawching

I believe that in order to have the desired result of a successful and joyous primary relationship, we should support and enhance (and WORK on) each of the earth guas, starting from bottom left and moving to the top right as our destination.

Gen: Wisdom, self-development, self-knowledge. Can you see how important this is, if we are to truly love another and share in a relationship? First we must know ourselves; are we really ready or available to share in a healthy relationship? If not, then this is where the work should be done first, both internally and externally, so that we bring a stronger and healthier psyche to the desired love relationship.

Tai Chi: Balance, Harmony, Well-being. Before we can really love another we should love our Self; we should seek to be centred, balanced, harmonious within. Then we can truly give, share, from a well-spring of well-being, with another person. So I urge my clients/students to spend time enhancing the energy of their Tai-chi, both within themselves and in their environments.

And then, only then, do I encourage paying attention to the gua that is so very popular:

Kun: Primary Relationships.
When, moving up the Earth diagonal, you bring the wisdom and growth of Gen, plus the harmony, balance and well-being of Tai Chi, to the Primary Relationship area of Kun…


THEN you are really ready.

Ready to express your desire for a healthy relationship by enhancing the gua of Kun (using all best feng shui methods of course).

Ready to actually embrace and participate in a holistic empowering, completely wonderful primary relationship.

Here’s to LOVE!

Wendy YawchingAbout the author, Wendy Yawching

Wendy is a retired airline captain who lives in Tobago.  In 2014 she obtained a master’s certification in BTB Feng Shui, which opened up a whole new heart-centred world of possibilities. She was elected to the IFSG board of directors in 2017 and subsequently for a second term in 2020.  Her other loves include adventure travelling, competitive Latin and Ballroom dancing, hiking, biking and kayaking.  She is the owner of Healing Spaces Caribbean.

Holiday Feng Shui

Happy Holidays!!  Have you ever wondered why these holidays – the season of Christmas and Hanukkah – feel so special?

Here is one reason. Whichever holiday(s) you celebrate, the décor that you add to your homes is a Feng Shui enhancement. Impossible you say – I don’t have any of that in my house. Well, yes you do. Feng Shui is about energy and from this perspective the lights, trees, decorations, symbols and color are additional energy, or chi, that we add to our lives. This additional energy increases our enjoyment of our homes and enhances our lives during a celebratory time of year.

Lights are fire, literally and symbolically, and fire is transforming according to Five Element theory. The five elements or transformative powers – water, wood, fire, earth and metal – are used in Chinese medicine and acupuncture as well as Feng Shui. Putting lights on a Christmas tree represents the creative element cycle because wood (the tree) creates fire (the lights). For myself, I love candles and use them on my Christmas tree in addition to lights. The fire element relates to our fame and reputation; on a spiritual plane it symbolizes enlightenment.

Wood is the element that relates to our families. Be as expansive as you wish and include friends, community, or universal oneness in your family circle. Wood additionally represents the gua (area) of abundance and blessings of all kinds.

The Hanukkah menorah brings light to homes as the symbol of a miracle. The tradition is to light the Shamash or helper candle (raised candle in the center) each night of Hanukkah and to use it in lighting the other eight – one the first night, two the second, and so forth. This symbolizes increasing light through the eight days of Hanukkah. Here too fire symbolizes enlightenment.

Traditional Christmas colors of red and green also represent the elements fire and wood. Trees decorated in lights, bows and balls of a single color could be interpreted as representing a specific gua. For example, pink symbolizes the Marriage gua and I have seen pink trees.

Traditional Hanukkah colors – silver and blue – represent metal and water in feng shui. Metal creates water in the creative cycle of elements. Metal is the element relating to the gua for our Children and our Creativity – both gifts from the universe and sources of joy. It likewise represents the Helpful People gua – philanthropy and being of service as well as receiving assistance and blessings from others. Blue also represents the Wisdom and Spirituality gua.

Holidays and our homes are full of myriad symbols. Seen through Feng Shui eyes, with gratitude, these symbols, colors, and décor all present a creative flow of joy and blessings in our lives.



Peggy Cross is a Virginia based Feng Shui professional with decades of experience.

Three Feng Shui Design Ideas to Boost your Career

Feng shui is a practice that can be seamlessly integrated into the overall decorating and design of your home.  You can add feng shui adjustments in creative ways by incorporating colours, shapes, and objects that activate specific energies and movement.

Your career path in life can also be impacted by feng shui. In fact, feng shui practitioners have many tools and techniques that focus on enhancing careers, boosting job prospects, and for finding direction, and getting clients on a clear path.

Here are 3 basic feng shui design ideas you can play with in your own home to add a little feng shui to your career:

  1. Make space for new things: Doing a review of your space once every few months to remove clutter such as old papers, broken, and redundant items. Old and unwanted items create blockages and stuck energy in your home. Energy should flow through the home like water in a river. Ridding your home of objects that block this flow of energy keeps the qi (energy) moving freely through out your space.
  1.  Place a mirror in your entryway. Mirrors can do many magical things. They can expand and open a narrow space, reduce negative qi by absorbing it, or contained it. A well-placed mirror can reduce disruptive floor plan issues such as an entrance with a ‘brick wall’ effect, it creates space and allows qi to flow more smoothly.
  1. Add water energy to specific areas of your home. Through design elements, you can intentionally add the energy of water to specific areas of your home. You can choose how much or little you would like to add: a piece of art, a piece of sculpture, a vase…

What are the five elements: they are the basic elements of life: fire, earth, metal, water, and wood. In the ancient practice of feng shui, we understand these elements to be more than actual flames, or dirt, or pieces of wood. These elements are universal energetic essences, each with their own characteristics and qualities.

The five elements can be represented in a space through colour, shape, or material. Here are some ways you can manifest the energy of water:


  • The colour black or very dark blue (and gray)
  • Undulating and wavy shapes and patterns
  • A fountain or other container of water i.e. fish bowl
Feng Shui Design for your Career

Paint: the velvety, soft black Baby Seal by Benjamin Moore

Feng Shui Design for your Career

Matte black vases from William Sonoma

Feng Shui Design for your Career

Artwork: Water Up Close and In Motion by Linda Vorderer

Pro tip: Finding your career area using the bagua 

The five elements are a fundamental part of feng shui (The five elements are: water, wood, fire, earth, metal) and the element that is associated with career is water. Water represents your wisdom, the things that flow to you, and how you flow through life. You can activate the career area (Kan), by using the water element. 


What is the bagua? The bagua is an energetic grid that feng shui practitioners use to map a space. Typically, the space being mapped is a house; it can also be a single room, or it can even be a whole plot of land. The bagua is a three-by-three grid with nine areas (called guas) in it. The center of the grid is the tai chi (unity/well-being) and then each of the eight surrounding areas relate to a different part of your life. 

Laying the bagua: Find the main door to your home or better yet try starting with a room (see the example above); you will line the main door of the room with the red line. As you can see in the illustration, there are three areas along what we refer to as the Kan line, and the career area is in the center.

Laura MorrisArticle contributed by Laura Morris, IFSG Board Chair
Laura Morris – founder of Morris Feng Shui and co-founder of Mindful Design Feng Shui School – is a certified Feng Shui consultant, designer, and artist. Through her articles, workshops, videos, TV appearances, and consultations, Laura has guided thousands of people to shift their energy and revitalize their living spaces.  Read more about Laura.

Missing Gua in the Bagua – A Case Study

When the bagua maps the space perfectly, making a feng shui assessment is straight forward. However, when a gua is missing, things can become more complicated. In this blog, Kristi Stangeland discusses how she worked with a client who was missing a key gua.

I was contacted by a woman who had left her corporate job to start her own company focused on bringing mindfulness and social innovation into large companies, but she was struggling to find clients.

When I met with her, I noticed that she was missing the Kan (earth) area in one part of her home since the entrance featured an inner courtyard that was surrounded by the Gen (mountains) and Qian (heaven) areas. This courtyard was not well maintained and included large pieces of driftwood, sprouts of grass and a desolate, barren area around the front door. We discussed how to enhance this area with new plantings and a fresh coat of paint on the front door. I suggested removing the driftwood and tending to the grass to improve its health and appearance. I also recommended hanging a wind chime near the door. Finally, I taught her the Black Sect tradition of blessing the items on auspicious days.

Approximately one month later she informed me that a large corporation had asked her to join their staff to integrate revenue opportunities with social innovation She was in disbelief that she would be able to do this work as an employee and not have to deal with the stress of running her own business. The outcome was even better than what she had imagined!

Kristi Stangeland, Bagua and a Missing Gua Case Study


Kristi StangelandKristi Stangeland is the founder of FSC, a company dedicated to helping corporate and private clients realize their goals using Feng Shui practices. Kristi holds a bachelor’s degree in business administration, a CPA license and trained as a Feng Shui practitioner with the BTB Feng Shui Masters Training Program. She is also IFSG Board Treasurer. Read more about Kristi.


Children and Creativity Gua – A Classroom Case Study

Learning is a lifelong journey but to enhance a child’s creativity is extra important to ensure that they will always enjoy learning especially in the classroom. IFSG member Julie Pelletier-Rutkowski outlines how she enhanced the Children and Creativity gua for a client with favorable results.


Children and Creativity in the Classroom, Julie Pelletier-Rutkowski


Julie’s client was a returning young middle-school reading teacher who was filled with angst about the upcoming school year. She wanted assistance with arranging her classroom for positive chi flow and support for both herself and the students. She identified three issues:

  1. administrative pressure to return students’ work in a timely manner;
  2. distracted students in the classroom unable to focus and prematurely approaching her desk with questions related to the assignment;
  3. stress over difficult students with known behavioral concerns joining the class.

During the visit it was clear that her client had many challenges for the upcoming school year. The focus was primarily on the placement and location of the furniture. We discussed the color scheme and “decorations/art work” in the room and trying to separate yin and yang space; yin space for the students to learn, and yang space for the students to grow.

First, the client’s desk was moved the front corner facing the students to behind the students. She could now watch the students from the back of the room. They created a wide path from her desk to the front of the room, where the blackboard was located. This solved the issue of uninterrupted time to correct papers and return the students’ school work. When students were assigned quiet work, the environment encouraged students to stay on task decreasing the amount of time students were at the teacher’s desk. Lastly, the desk was intentionally placed in the Children and Creativity gua and specific students’ desks in the most helpful and supportive gua; children with family issues in the family gua, students with learning issues in the skills and knowledge gua, and students with health concerns in the center of the room.

The result was quite positive and came quite quickly after implementing the changes. Her client particularly noticed that using the ba gua proved to psychologically/emotionally beneficial. And by keeping a clear walkway to this new “safe area” (desk area), and she retreated there periodically, the students remained calm and most of them stayed on-task.

Children and Creativity in the Classroom, Julie Pelletier-Rutkowski

Julie Pelletier-RutkowskiJulie Pelletier-Rutkowski, MS, RN, is owner and principal consultant for Feng Shui Services of New England. She writes, educates and consults about balance and harmony using the Western principles of Feng Shui. Julie has been called the “home care nurse” because she works to heal homes, offices, and workplaces.  Read more about Julie.

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