That Thing Called Love

Wendy Yawching of Healing Spaces and Caribbean and IFSG Board of Directors, shares her lightbulb moment about how love can be found within – and how to use Feng Shui to enhance your experience.

We all seek love. It’s one of my clients most frequent requests (along with money and health). So over the years, I got to thinking: How can I use Feng Shui to really, really help all of these people who come to me expecting that a few adjustments in their bedroom, or in the relationship corner of their homes, will bring about a miraculous change in their romantic fortune?

So I went within and asked the question, and the answer was waiting there. A Lightbulb moment! And now whenever I talk about love and relationships, whether it be to an individual client or within a workshop session, this is my message….

The Feng Shui of Love, Wendy Yawching

Quite simply, Love starts with US. With YOU. 

 

To support the energy of love, whether you are seeking to attract a rich, rewarding love into your life, or to strengthen your existing relationships, don’t focus only on the Relationship corner. Love is not just about pink quartz, or hearts and roses. Deep authentic love is a matter much deeper, and we should give it the honour it deserves.

Take a good look at the Bagua. Check out the 3 Earth guas. Start from the bottom left, moving in a diagonal line to the upper right: Gen, Tai Chi, Kun (as shown in the image below, where blue is Gen; yellow is Tai Chi and Kun is pink).The Feng Shui of Love, Wendy Yawching

I believe that in order to have the desired result of a successful and joyous primary relationship, we should support and enhance (and WORK on) each of the earth guas, starting from bottom left and moving to the top right as our destination.

Gen: Wisdom, self-development, self-knowledge. Can you see how important this is, if we are to truly love another and share in a relationship? First we must know ourselves; are we really ready or available to share in a healthy relationship? If not, then this is where the work should be done first, both internally and externally, so that we bring a stronger and healthier psyche to the desired love relationship.

Tai Chi: Balance, Harmony, Well-being. Before we can really love another we should love our Self; we should seek to be centred, balanced, harmonious within. Then we can truly give, share, from a well-spring of well-being, with another person. So I urge my clients/students to spend time enhancing the energy of their Tai-chi, both within themselves and in their environments.

And then, only then, do I encourage paying attention to the gua that is so very popular:

Kun: Primary Relationships.
When, moving up the Earth diagonal, you bring the wisdom and growth of Gen, plus the harmony, balance and well-being of Tai Chi, to the Primary Relationship area of Kun…

 

THEN you are really ready.

Ready to express your desire for a healthy relationship by enhancing the gua of Kun (using all best feng shui methods of course).

Ready to actually embrace and participate in a holistic empowering, completely wonderful primary relationship.

Here’s to LOVE!

Wendy YawchingAbout the author, Wendy Yawching

Wendy is a retired airline captain who lives in Tobago.  In 2014 she obtained a master’s certification in BTB Feng Shui, which opened up a whole new heart-centred world of possibilities. She was elected to the IFSG board of directors in 2017 and subsequently for a second term in 2020.  Her other loves include adventure travelling, competitive Latin and Ballroom dancing, hiking, biking and kayaking.  She is the owner of Healing Spaces Caribbean.

6 Bedroom Feng Shui Tips for Sleep and Support

Why is the bedroom important?
Your bedroom is where you spend a significant amount of time – 1/3 of your life in fact! It’s the space that rejuvenates you and where you rest. This is also the room that is closest to your body and the most intimate. It is closely connected to your health and also to your Partnerships, no matter where it is located within the home. The bedroom is intended for two things only… Rest and Romance! Anything not related to these two things should be placed elsewhere in your home. 

Tip #1 Make your bed daily
You would not come into a luxury hotel and appreciate or expect to see an unmade bed. Making your bed signals a fresh start to the day and welcomes you at the end of the day with a sense of peacefulness.

Tip #2 Ensure you have a solid headboard and foot board
Solid headboards provide support and backing for you in your life, within your business and with your health. They also help couples feel supported by one another.

If you have a headboard that is slatted, remedy this by weaving scarves or material through the headboard slats or placing material behind it. One of my clients hung a cherished quilt over her slatted headboard and immediately felt more supported and slept better!

If you do not have a headboard/foot board, purchase one or for a temporary fix, you can paint a headboard on the wall or paint the wall behind the bed a different color than the rest of the room. Another quick fix I used in a temporary living space was to hang a sari or scarf behind the bed to act as a headboard.

Tip # 3 Clean out under your bed
Make sure there is nothing under your bed as things and clutter under the bed relate to emotional baggage or communication breakdown. The items under your bed can also cause sleep issues. I had one couple storing some things under their bed. She was sleeping fine and he was not. Under his side of the bed, they were storing a relative’s relic gun! If you must store other things under the bed, make sure they are soft things like blankets or clothing.

Tip #4 Revamp your vision wall
You vision wall is at the foot of your bed. This is the last thing you see before you go to sleep at night and the first thing you see in the morning. One of my clients had her work task list posted on that wall! Can you imagine the stress you would feel if this is the first and last thing you saw before you went to sleep? Instead, place a painting or artwork on that wall that inspires you (and your partner). Ideally this would be a restful piece of artwork to bring you to a place of peace at night and in the morning.

Tip # 5 Remove bookshelves
Bookshelves or piles of books in your bedroom is not only very heavy energy, it’s a lot to think about – consider all of the words in those books swirling around in your head while you sleep! Having a book or two on your nightstand is fine. However, move the rest of your books out of the bedroom. One great idea is to place a bookshelf in your closet. That way, you have quick access to your books from the bedroom and their energy is contained.

Tip #6 Remove TVs and electronics
TVs and other electronics and electrical wires present several energetic issues. TVs are a “black hole” that suck energy; and TVs, electrical wires and other electronics also generate electromagnetic smog, which can be harmful to your health.

I recommend either removing the TV from the bedroom (preferred) or covering it while you sleep (a beautiful fabric throw can be used for this purpose.) Electronics (such as electrical wires, cell phones or Ipads) should be kept at least 18” from the bed.

Create an oasis in your bedroom and this will soon become your favorite room. You’ll feel more relaxed, calmer and more rested every day which positively impacts every other area of your life!

  

Kim JulenArticle contributed by Kim Julen, IFSG Membership Director

Kim Julen, founder of Finding Your Fiji, is a dynamic thought leader, writer, entrepreneur, speaker and shift master. She provides unique tools, guidance and courses to bring harmony to your head, heart and home. Read more about Kim.

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Attracting Love and Partnership with Feng Shui

Love and Partnership Tips from Carole HyderThe partnership gua is the upper right corner of the bagua and it is used to call forth love, a romantic partner, enhance a current relationship or bolster self confidence. IFSG member Carole Hyder tells us about a time when she activated this gua to benefit herself.

Recommendation/cure/advice:
Place an indoor-appropriate wind chime in the Partnership area of the bedroom to “call in” a partner.

Back in 1992 when I was first studying Feng Shui with Professor Thomas Lin Yun, I hung a wind chime in the Partnership area of my condo. I wasn’t calling in a partner as much as counteracting a bathroom and laundry room that was located in that area. I rang it occasionally as it was a sweet, small bell that had a beautiful sound to it. In the meantime, I offered this suggestion to several of my clients as well and, as attended 3 weddings as a result.

It wasn’t until I was moving out of my condo a couple years later, with the man who was to be my husband, that I realized he and I had met 90 days after I had hung my own wind chime. Even though it wasn’t my main focus, it worked anyway. I still have the bell and the man is still the love of my life. Now when I ring it, I ring it with gratitude.

 

Carole Hyder is an internationally recognized consultant, speaker, teacher, author and trainer in the field of Feng Shui. Carole has been a Feng Shui consultant since 1992, having studied with His Holiness Grandmaster Thomas Lin Yun, Her Holiness Crystal Chu Rinpoche, and Roger Green. She founded the Wind and Water School of Feng Shui in 1998.

Feng Shui for the Way You Love

Feng shui design serves the mind, body and soul by increasing energy in appropriate spaces – like offices, fitness areas, and social areas of the home. Bedroom feng shui, by contrast, incorporates energy in the space differently. Read more from Feng Shui Professional, Samantha Shields.

Samantha Shields, Feng Shui Love, Bedroom Feng ShuiWith intuitive bedroom feng shui design, the master bedroom serves as a restful retreat, conducive to serene sleep and enriched with romantic allure. Unfortunately, since this area is often kept behind closed doors unseen by visitors, it tends to be the most forgotten and neglected room of the home.

Setting the Scene

Bedroom feng shui creates an enticing ambience that offers benefits such as:

  • Promoting restful sleep
  • Increasing feelings of security
  • Improving focus and concentration
  • Supporting recovery from heartbreak or sorrow
  • Encouraging the development of a new relationship
  • Stimulating intimacy and romantic connection
  • Providing a personal sanctuary
  • Revitalizing your energy daily
  • Eliciting positive emotions
  • Inspiring your creativity
  • Rest and Rejuvenation

Samantha Shields, Feng Shui Love, Bedroom Feng ShuiBedroom Feng Shui design pays special attention to our natural need for rest, rejuvenation and deep sleep.

Sleep is a basic physical requirement necessary for self-preservation, giving us the strength and clarity we need to survive, thrive and flourish each day.

Feng shui takes into account the complex nature of our human needs – fulfilling our most basic requirements and supporting our aspirations for future achievements. In the bedroom, feng shui design helps us gently disengage from our daily activities and stresses. It allows you to peacefully slip into the sanctuary of your bedroom to bring back balance to your body and mind. Bedroom Feng Shui also encourages you to create habits of self-care to nourish your body and soul.When you feel well rested and refreshed, you are more able to share yourself enthusiastically with your partner and the world.

Rekindle Your Relationship

If you feel your current relationship has lost its “spark,” bedroom feng shui design can help you create an intimate space where you can rekindle your romantic connection. The loving relationship that is supported in the bedroom is positively affected by furniture arrangement, color, romantic enhancements, sensual comforts and personal mementos.

Treat your bedroom as a sanctuary where positive communication is encouraged and yourSamantha Shields, Feng Shui Love, Bedroom Feng Shui physical and emotional health are nourished each day.

Design for New Love

Feng shui wisdom teaches us to open our hearts and clear our minds to make room for new opportunities. If you are single and looking for a partner, allow your bedroom design to reflect an openness and readiness for a thriving relationship. Prepare for love by creating a space designed for two instead of one.

Healing a Broken Heart

If you have experienced a breakup or other personal loss, bedroom feng shui adjustments provide supportive healing energy as well as inspiration to move forward and invite happiness.

 

Samantha ShieldsFor more than 20 years, Samantha worked as a sales and marketing professional. Though she enjoyed professional success in her career, she had a desire to pursue a more creative path. Through a love of decorating she discovered Feng Shui and began incorporating it into her life.  Read more about Samantha.

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Feng Shui for Love

Whether you are in a committed relationship or still searching for The One,” Feng Shui paves the way for more harmonious relationships. Feng Shui helps you recognize how your space reflects your life and encourages you to create a new relationship with your space. Find out more details and ideas from Kim Julen, Finding Your Fiji.

  

Feng Shui for Love by Kim Julen

In the relationship arena, Feng Shui can help:

  • Bring balance, equality and harmony
  • Get the sparks flying again
  • Attract your soul mate
  • Reduce/eliminate arguments
  • Improve relationships with family, friends and coworkers
  • Deepen your relationship with yourself or creator

There are two main areas in your home we look at to improve relationships. One area is the partnership corner. (If you’re new to Feng Shui, click here to read my blog on Feng Shui’s mental map, the Bagua, to learn how your space reflects your life.) The other area is your bedroom, no matter where it’s located in your home. In this article, I’m focusing primarily on your bedroom. Ideally, this should be your favorite room in the house, an oasis that is both romantic and peaceful.

Let’s first talk about the things to AVOID in your bedroom:

  1. Clutter: As in every area of your home or office, clutter represents stuck energy. It’s also distracting. So, if you’re trying to get your partner in the right mood, removing clutter from the bedroom will help them feel less overwhelmed and more relaxed.
  2. Dirt: This can represent staleness in your relationship. To keep your Partnership fresh and new feeling, keep your bedroom dusted and clean. You will sleep better too!
  3. Dead Things: One client I worked with had pictures of dead relatives decorating a corner of her bedroom! Sometimes we place things in spaces without really think about the metaphorical message we are sending. You want things that are alive and thriving in your bedroom and Partnership area of your home. Remove any dried flowers from your bedroom (and home) as well.
  4. Pictures of your kids and other people: Even if the relatives are living, we do not want them invading our bedroom, right? And kids certainly are important in our life, but again, we do not need them coming between us and our partner. The bedroom is your personal partnership space.
  5. Toys and stuffed animals: We want to be an adult in our relationships so childish things do not belong in the bedroom. If they are keepsakes or mementos that you love, they can be placed in another area of the home – perhaps in the Creativity and Children area.

Next, let’s talk about the things you DO WANT in your bedroom. What can you do to get the love lava flowing again or to attract your soul mate?

  1. Two equal size/weight night stands: This symbolizes equality in the relationship and is particularly important if you currently do not have a partner. What does it say if one partner has a large dresser on their side and the other a small nightstand? Or if one partner has no nightstand at all? Will they have much say in the relationship? Matching lamps will bring additional balance and harmony to your love connection.
  2. Art symbolizing what you want in your relationship: Look at the art on your bedroom walls. Is it romantic? Or do you have pictures of a frozen lake? Is it peaceful and copacetic or showing conflict? Are there single people or animals depicted in the paintings? That single cowboy picture not only shows a desert, but the guy is alone, right? That leads me to the next tip…
  3. Pairs of things: Pairs represent partnership and intentionally placing pairs of things in your bedroom will help balance your relationship.
  4. A current picture of the two of you, if you’re in a partnership, should be placed in your bedroom and will help solidify your bond. Sometimes I recommend a wedding picture be placed here too, to help you remember how you felt when you fell in love.
  5. Vibrant, living things: To really promote a healthy sex life, place 9 lush plants in the bedroom. Then, make sure you keep them alive!
  6. Add Pink and Fire: The partnership color is pink and adding a dash of it here or there intentionally will boost your budding or rekindling relationship. Adding the element of fire, which is all about passion, will further heat things up. You can use the color red to represent fire or physical fire (like candles) or triangle shapes. We don’t like fireplaces in bedrooms, because it’s too much energy to allow you to sleep well. However, the Partnership area of your main level is a perfect place for a fireplace.

Making changes in your Partnership area and bedroom with intention means taking time to really think about what you want to cultivate in your relationships.

Your bedroom is a key Feng Shui area. It can affect not only your relationships, but also your sleep, your health, and your mind.

 

Kim JulenKim Julen, founder of Finding Your Fiji, is a dynamic thought leader, writer, entrepreneur, speaker and shift master. She provides unique tools, guidance and courses to bring harmony to your head, heart and home. Read more about Kim.

 

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